Lauren Graham says her relationship with longtime partner Peter Krause collapsed due to fundamental differences.
The ‘Gilmore Girls’ actress – who started dating Krause while starring in 2010’s ‘Parenthood’ together – has revealed the couple may not have known each other as well as they thought after 11 year.
“I think some of all the positives of knowing each other for a very long time were there,” Graham says People. “And one of the downsides of that is that we almost entered a relationship as people in their 40s without asking any of the questions that people in their 40s should be asking.”
The 55-year-old continued: ‘We had such a great time together that maybe I didn’t ask basic questions about ‘What are your values and what do you envision? and those more adult things. And then they just caught up with us.
Indeed, during a 2017 interview with Good Housekeepingthe actress – who was first introduced to Krause in the 90s – revealed that when they first started dating, most of their conversations centered on shared interests rather than their individual beliefs.
“We couldn’t stop talking. Not about ourselves, but about the world, books and family,” the producer told the outlet, adding that their lives were “simple.”
However, in June, the former couple announced that they were “quietly ended their relationship last year,” and Graham says becoming single in her 50s made her stronger.
“I knew I was resilient because I always have been,” the actress told the outlet. “You take your hits and don’t complain. That’s how I was always brought up.
In the midst of her grief, Graham leaned into her work and began to write her new memoir, “Did I already tell you? Stories I don’t want to forget to rememberwhich is available November 15.
“Somewhere in this year is a year like this where I just wasn’t going to let [the breakup] flatten me,” she added. “I was like, ‘OK, well, look at all the good things I have, and look at all the good times’ and ‘I’m going to write this book.’ Thank goodness I have these outlets and stories to tell.
Although the former couple never married or had children, Graham helped Krause, 57, raise his 20-year-old son, Roman — which she says was one of the hardest parts of their decades-long friendship, which turned into a romance that is coming to an end.
“Any pain really still has its moments. I contributed to the life of his child, and so we are connected. And yes, I’m in a better place, but it’s still just a shame. It’s just sad for me.